Unbecoming to Become: A Journey to Authentic Self

Unbecoming to Become:

A Journey to Authentic Self

In a world that constantly tells us who we should be and how we should act, the journey to our true selves often feels more like an unending quest to add layers, accomplishments, and labels to our identity. We are encouraged to become something—someone who fits the mold, meets expectations, and aligns with societal standards. But what if the journey isn't about becoming anything at all? What if it's about unbecoming everything that isn't truly us, so we can finally embrace who we were meant to be in the first place?

The Illusion of Becoming

From a young age, we are taught to strive for something greater, to climb the ladder of success, and to become someone of worth. This pursuit is often driven by external influences—family expectations, cultural norms, societal pressures. We start to layer these influences onto our core selves, creating an identity that aligns more with what others want from us rather than what we truly desire.

But these layers, while they may protect us or help us fit in, also obscure our authentic selves. They become masks we wear to navigate the world, but over time, we may find that these masks no longer fit. They may even suffocate our true essence, leaving us feeling lost, unfulfilled, and disconnected from who we are at our core.

The Process of Unbecoming

The process of "unbecoming" involves three main steps:

1. Self-Reflection and Awareness:

Begin by deeply reflecting on your life, questioning your identity beyond roles and achievements, and recognizing beliefs that might not truly be yours.

2. Identifying Inauthentic Layers.

Identify habits, thought patterns, and behaviors that don’t align with your true self. This step requires honesty to see which aspects of your life are not genuinely you.

3. Letting Go of What No Longer Serves You:

Release the beliefs, relationships, and roles that don’t align with your authentic self, allowing you to embrace who you were meant to be.

Julie Hines B.Msc RMT

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